Kelly Fitzgerald’s story starts out like many others who struggle with alcohol or drug addiction. She grew up in a small town, graduated with not one, but two undergraduate degrees, and had four successful seasons of soccer – all while honing her drinking skills. Her story is proof that anyone can be addicted at some point. Now, just over three years sober, she shares her stories and thoughts on sobriety on her blog, The Sober Senorita. “I was in deep denial about just how bad my drinking habits were,” she shared. Kelly made a huge change in her life and now her goal is to show others that a fulfilling life in recovery is possible. We had the chance to catch up with her and ask her about her experience and how sobriety has changed her life.
How long have you been in recovery/sober?
Since May 7, 2013
When you decided to quit drinking, what was that moment like for you?
It was a very emotional and spiritual moment, one that I will never forget. I was in a great amount of pain and I truly felt that drastic change was my only option. I was sick and tired of being sick and tired and I decided on that day that I would try something I had never done before – quit alcohol and drugs altogether.
Were your friends and family supportive of your decision to stop drinking?
Yes, they were extremely supportive and proud.
Quitting any addictive substance is life changing. In what way, if you could pick just one, did your life change the most?
It’s so hard to just pick one way! I would have to say my outlook on life. I always felt like the world was out to get me when I was drinking. I was negative and I felt like bad things always happened to me. I let life happen to me. Now that I’m sober I have a positive outlook on life. I believe the universe wants the best for me and that life isn’t bad even when occasional bad stuff happens. The best part is, now I play an active role in my life. I don’t let it just happen to me.
What were your major sources of inspiration or motivation when you first started your sobriety journey?
When I first got sober I found a lot of comfort in online sobriety websites like After Party Magazine, Sober Nation, and The Fix. I also read a number of drinking memoirs and a book by Veronica Valli called “Why you drink and how to stop,” that was life-changing.
Living a life of sobriety has so many benefits. What was the most surprising benefit in your life?
The most surprising benefit was definitely the ability to love and be loved. I never even realized that I was in toxic relationships for the majority of my life because I didn’t know what a healthy one really felt like. Now I am able to be in a healthy partnership with boundaries and mutual respect.
Do you have any advice for those who might be considering quitting or taking that first step to getting help?
I know it’s scary, but it’s worth it. Don’t give up. Take it one day at a time. This is the first day of the rest of your life.
How has having Sober Senorita contributed to your recovery/sobriety?
My blog definitely plays a part in keeping me sober and allows me to pass on the message of recovery to others! When I started it I was 8 months sober and it was therapeutic for me to get my feelings out in writing. Then I realized there are people who can relate and benefit from just hearing my experiences. I started writing for selfish reasons and now I write to help others. It’s a two-way street and it’s awesome!
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